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Traci sent this email to us (her parents) and asked me to put it up on her blog, so here it is:

So we made it with ease on Saturday morning.  All of our bags made it in one piece.  Brandon only knocked over the huge pile once.  The Ethiopians thought it was pretty funny.  Brandon didn’t think so.  The drivers met us at the airport and took us to the Union Hotel and then on to meet our kids.  The hotel is wonderful., much nicer then I expected.  We met two of the families that are traveling with us on the airplane and we have all hit it off.  There is something bonding about this experience.  We are having an amazing experience with each other.  I am so thankful that God saw too it that we would have such great traveling partners. 

 

So….. Eyob is beautiful, much smaller than I thought and they shaved off all of his hair about a week ago.  He was at the front gate when we got there but I didn’t recognize him.  I have to be honest… this part of the trip has been really hard.  Eyob is SOOOO bonded with two of his special mothers (who love him) and the guard Tomie.  He yells Ta, Ta (Tomie) anytime we take him away.  I cried when I held him for the first time and so did he and he really hasn’t stopped around us since.  We are taking it slow and trying not to take it personally.  We take him with us when we go out but he won’t eat or sleep with us.  It is really hard, but we know that God has planned this boy for us.  Please pray hard that he will accept us preferably before the ride home.  It breaks our hearts to see him so sad, but Almaz (the amazing director says)  while these people love him this is not as good as a family.  He is meant for us.  Almaz keeps assuring me that I am the perfect mother for him.  Don’t worry…. About us…. I have decided that I am just going to enjoy the trip, love on kids and spend time with the amazing families that we are here with , and hold Eyob when he will let us and not stress about the bonding.  It will come.  I can’t ask enough for prayer for him… he is grieving….. and so are the people here who love him.

 

All in all we are having a fabulous time.  Please give my blond boys big hugs and tell them that we love and miss them.  We are dividing  and sorting the donations it is like Christmas around here.  We gave each of the kids a match box car from Sloan and they are all outside playing.  It is like one big family here.  Big kids helping little.  So precious.  Everyone…. There are more than enough kids for all of you….. 19 babies alone at HH.  Adopt people…..

 

When we know more we will post it here.  We have had no phone calls as yet.  Thanks for praying for them.

Linda and Greg Scandrett

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I don’t want to get in the habit of censoring my blog, nor do I want to feel like I have to respond to comments that people make in defense of myself.  However, this time I am going to.  This is MY blog, MY heart being laid out, and MY life that I am writing about.  This blog is for no other purpose than to stay in contact with my family and friends and to write……   This is not a platform or stage for anyone else’s agenda.  SO on that note I am going to make a response to what seems to have been a very touchy subject.

We are not taking a mother’s child away from her…… she made the decision, free of coersion many months before we even knew about baby E.  When I said we don’t know the birthmom’s whole story that is true.  I have not sat down with her and talked to her personally.  I hope to do so with the help of an interpreter when we go to pick up E. I do, however, know much of her story and because of legal reasons am not allowed to post any of her person information.  Besides the legal reasons, we are choosing to keep our son’s personal history between us and him.  If he wants to tell her story someday he will, but we will not be sharing it with other people. So please, those of you who think you have it all figured out, don’t judge.  There is a story, we do know it, and it is hers (E’s birthmom).  My post the other day was to say that I had been selfish in my reaction to her and God showed me that. 

I believe that God is ALL about family, but sometimes, through many reasons, the families don’t look like the one’s we want them too.  Family isn’t always a mom and a dad, but sometimes it is.  In our case, E along with our two other boys will have a mom and a dad.  In other cases,  it is a grandparent, an aunt or uncle, a family friend or a foster family.  In Ethiopia, it can be a sister or a brother standing in as the mom or dad.  We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and have an obligation to love one another.  That was my point.  Because of circumstances, some out of E’s birthmoms control, and some choices she is making, she and I will be forever tied together because of our son.  That was what my post was about.

Yes, our agency does everything they can to keep families together.  She has not been coerced.  She was offered aid.  As Nat, said, there is a sponsorship program, there is counsel for the birthmoms, many of whom are giving up their children because they are dieing of AIDS, starvation, TB and such. Our agency provides relief and takes an active role in trying to leave the country they are in a better place.  But have you read Ethiopian statistics. If not here are a few:  Keep these in mind when you are choosing to be critical of me for “taking” a child away from his birthmom.” One in ten children die before their first birthday• One in six children die before their fifth birthday• 44% of the population of Ethiopia is under 15 years old• 60% of children in Ethiopia are stunted because of malnutrition• The median age in Ethiopia is 17.8 years• 1.5 million people are infected with AIDS (6th highest in the world)• 720,000 children have been orphaned by AIDS alone, and there are 4.6 million orphans in Ethiopia.•   E’s mom is making a decision to save her child from being one of these statistics.  Does that mean she wouldn’t love to keep him?  I honestly don’t know, but I imagine that every Ethiopian wishes the circumstances in their country were different.  The more we know about Ethiopia, the more we fall in love with the people.  Because our son is from there and because we feel like God has placed a calling on our lives for the people of Ethiopia, who knows maybe we will go back there someday.  All I know is, that for now, this is what God is calling us to do. 

I have no idea the pain that goes into giving a child up for adoption, for whatever the reasons….. however, I am a “birthmom” too.  I do know what it is like to give birth and to love a child beyond anything you can imagine.  I know what it is like to want the very best for my child.  The only thing that seperates me, as a mom, from E’s birthmom is that I can only imagine the pain she is going through to give her child up.  I didn’t have to make that choice, but I can understand her pain.  My husband and I are following God’s call on our life to love a child and we can’t wait to bring him home.  In bringing him home we also realize what he will be leaving behind and hope to always be able to share that with him.  

I feel like I could go on and on in response to some of the comments being made, but may be less is more.  It is obvious, that some people commenting do not have the whole story.  Thanks for reading.  We will move on to a lighter subject tomorrow.

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A Child Dies

EVERY 3 SECONDS A CHILD DIES FROM THE EFFECTS OF EXTREME POVERTY…………………. EVERY 3 SECONDS.. THAT IS 20 CHILDREN, BABIES, TODDLERS, INFANTS EVERY MINUTE……

Let that statistic marinate in your head and heart.  Try to imagine what that looks like. Can you even grasp it?                                                      

How does that sit with you?  Does it make you a little uncomfortable?  Does it hurt your heart?  Does it overwhelm you?  Do you just want to tune out, shut off, or forget that you even read it?  I feel all of those things too.  Sometimes I need a little shake, a little wake up call, that life isn’t always about me and that I am entitled to so much less than what I have.  I need to be forced to think about what life outside of my comfortable South Jordan home is really like for millions of people.  It is hard.  It is ugly.  It is heartbreaking.  It is motivating.  I am forced to ask myself…. How does knowing this fact change me? 

Think about it….

That’s enough for now…….

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Idol Gives Back

Did any of you happen to watch the results show on American Idol last night?  For some reason Brandon and I have really been enjoying this season of American Idol.  We have our favorites and as the show winds down to the final 6 contestants we are dreading that one of the favorites will have to go. 

Well, last night they did something called, Idol Gives Back.  They spent the entire evening focused on raising money for the impoverished people of the United States and Africa.  They showed video clips from some of the judges trips around the US and Africa.  They used music and comedy to help raise awareness of what is going on in our country as well as around the globe.  It was truly a moving two hours.  In fact, Brandon and I spent the majority of the show in tears and even weeping at some points.  We were moved beyond words and felt physically drained after watching.  Today it has been on my mind all day.  I can’t seem to get away from the images. 

I think it resonated with us so strongly because are hearts have been stolen by the country of Ethiopia, where our future son is either living (if he is born) or will be in the future.  The faces of the children were the face of our unknown child.  God has placed in our hearts a passion for Ethiopia that is beyond what we understand.  And so….. over the next couple of weeks I am going to be focusing some of my posts on Africa and Ethiopia specifically.  I will be sharing with you some of the things I have learned about the country and it’s people.  I will be sharing with you about our adoption and why we feel called to do it.  I will be showing you some hard facts and statistics.  I hope and pray that it will move you to your knees on behalf of a country that desperately needs Jesus and you………..

Check out this site to see some of what Idol Gives Back was all about (by the way last time I heard they had raised 30 million dollars!)

www.americanidol.com

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